Not Seeing Each Other? Sure, at what cost?

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Tradition has it that the groom should not see the bride before the wedding... but why?

Way back when arranged marriages were the norm, the couple wasn’t allowed to see each other before the wedding at all.

Times were harsher, and a wedding was an economic arrangement, two workers who would produce helpers (apprentices) to carry on living in rather dim conditions.

As such, marriages were arranged based on economic indicators rather than love and other crazy ideas :)

So imagine some groom seeing his bride before the wedding and not liking her. Or worse, imagine them liking each other a lot, and expressing this feeling in the hay shed.

Either way... such a contact could lead to headaches, shame, problems, complications, cancellations, suicide...

Therefore, it became tradition that the bride and groom were only allowed to meet at the wedding ceremony so that the groom did not have the opportunity to change his mind. "No test drive for you!"

And that veil the bride wears?

More of the same: keep the groom from finding out what the bride looked like until the last possible minute, when it was too late to back out of the transaction.

It's a quaint and irrelevant tradition, so, if you must... go ahead, however, consider how you use your time on your weddings!

It is a busy day and you have many things to do. You'll likely be more relaxed by not hiding.

You will also have more time with the photographer, whom your're paying by the hour; and, earlier in the day, your make-up looks a lot better than later on, especially after you bawled all over yourself during the ceremony :)

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